13 Reasons I Went from Swimming 0 to 26 laps in 12 Months: From Phobic to Addict
My swimming journey began innocuously at age ten, then resulted in fear that kept me paralyzed for 38 years. A year later, I am addicted […]
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4 Ways Trauma Feels Like Your Personality
One of the hardest things about trauma is that it can feel like personality. Not because it is — but because you have lived with […]
Continue reading »3 Ways the Pacific is Addressing SOGIESC
As a coach who works with members of marginalized LGBTQIA+ communities, I am always on the lookout for new and integrated approaches to inclusion. I […]
Continue reading »Why Toxic Workplaces Are a Development Issue in the Pacific
As a life and leadership coach, I’ve been exploring a theme that continues to surface across coaching sessions, research, and conversations with leaders: trauma doesn’t […]
Continue reading »5 Ways Traumatized People can Harm You
I’ve been reflecting a lot on how people create harm, often subconsciously, because they refuse to work on their trauma. Or perhaps because they cannot […]
Continue reading »5 Ways to Catch a Manipulator in the Act
Recently, I’ve had some interesting experiences that forced me to observe carefully. I wanted to see if I was being manipulated. What I found helpful […]
Continue reading »3 Ways to Know if you’re Being Groomed for Emotional Abuse
Recently, I met a person who instantly felt like someone I had known before. I felt a sense of recognition and connection. It was a […]
Continue reading »Becoming a Swimmer: On the Other Side of a Phobia
Yesterday I went for a swim after a day off. I felt strong, using my paddles to build upper body strength. I tend to start […]
Continue reading »6 Ways to Cope with Negative People
In the previous post, we looked at how negative people can cope with their own negativity. In the last episode of the Niggling Negativity series […]
Continue reading »4 Healthy Ways of Coping with Negativity
As a follow-up on our previous posts on traits of negative people, and factors surrounding negativity, we look at ways in which persons can address […]
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